A perspective on change, quantifying our 'more' or 'less', and the different ways we experience regret.
MONTHLY REMINDER
Change - even of the welcomed variety - is as much a symbolic death as it is a (re)birth.
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
- What’s ended for me recently?
- What new portal am I stepping into?
- What losses (material/intangible) will I be grieving?
- What newness will I be welcoming?
SEPTEMBER'S REFLECTION PROMPTS
In September, I want more…
In September, I want less…
Reader, your reflections can be abstract or tangible (e.g. joy or sleep). Be sure to get specific and be realistic. Define and quantify your ‘more’ or ‘less’.
Consider what practically needs to happen to gratefully welcome and lovingly release these ideas, behaviours, thoughts, items, feelings etc.
2 QUOTES WORTH PONDERING
1. American actress, Phylicia Rashad shares 2 aphorisms her mother taught her:
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
- What timeless piece of wisdom did I receive when I was a child, and from whom?
- How has that piece of wisdom influenced the way I've navigated life?
2. Composer, Tina Davidson on discovering beauty in the broken:
REFLECTION PROMPTS:
- What has heartbreak taught me?
- What broke my heart but healed my vision?
- What parts of my inner being are on the mend but still tender?
POPULAR IN AUGUST
PODCAST EPISODE 79: The different ways we experience regret
(a 2-minute listen)
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BLOG POST: Section 2: Two types of loss | How to process loss and grief
(a 3-min read + exercise + reflection prompts)
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